As March begins to fade into spring, it’s the perfect time to pause and reflect, not just on where you’ve been, but on how you want to feel moving forward. If you’ve been through a high asset contested divorce, a custody battle, or even just an emotionally draining chapter, now is the time to reclaim your space, your energy, and your peace. One of the most powerful tools you have in this season? Boundaries. 
At the Harris Firm, we see firsthand how hard it can be for women, especially caregivers and nurturers, to set healthy limits. Boundaries aren’t about building walls. They’re about drawing lines that protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. They’re not selfish, they’re necessary.
1. Define What Peace Looks Like for You
Before you can protect your peace, you need to know what it feels like. Is it a drama-free co-parenting schedule? Is it not responding to late-night texts from your ex? Is it simply having time alone on the weekends to recharge?
Take a moment and ask yourself: What does peace mean to me right now? What disrupts it?
Knowing this will help you get clear on where boundaries are needed.
2. Communicate Clearly Without Apologizing
When you set a boundary, you don’t have to over-explain or justify it.
Try:
“I’m not available to talk about this outside of scheduled times.”
“For my wellbeing, I’m no longer engaging in conversations that feel hostile.”
“I’ll respond to messages during business hours only.”
Reminder: Clear is kind. You’re allowed to speak calmly and directly without guilt.
3. Limit Access to Your Energy
Not everyone needs access to your time, your thoughts, or your emotional labor. Whether it’s setting stricter communication boundaries with your ex, saying no to family pressure, or pulling back from draining friendships, you’re not responsible for managing everyone else’s emotions.
Protecting your peace means preserving your energy for the people and things that truly matter.
4. Create Physical and Emotional Space That Feels Safe
Sometimes boundaries aren’t just about what you say. They’re about the spaces you create. Maybe it’s having a separate space in your home that’s just yours. Maybe it’s setting a bedtime where no phones, no emails, and no drama are allowed.
Pro tip: Find your calm. Light a candle, stretch, take a few deep breaths, or journal each night. Signal to your mind and body that this is your time now.
5. Boundaries Aren’t One-Time Events, They’re a Practice
You may have to remind people. You may need to adjust. That’s okay. Setting boundaries isn’t about getting it perfect. It is all about staying aligned with what brings you peace and growth.
Permit Yourself to Rest
As this month winds down, let yourself settle. You’ve been through a lot. You’ve fought hard. You’ve grown. Now it’s time to protect what you’ve built with care, intention, and confidence.
At the Harris Firm, we believe peace is a legal and emotional right. If you need support navigating the final stages of your divorce, modifying a custody agreement, or just protecting your peace legally, we’re here. You’ve earned your peace. Now protect it.
Attorney Steven A. Harris regularly blogs in the areas of family law, bankruptcy, probate, and real estate closings on this website. Mr. Harris tries to provide informative information to the public in easily digestible formats. Hopefully you enjoyed this article and feel free to supply feedback. We appreciate our readers & love to hear from you!